My experience dating a very mean Luhya man

I had a boyfriend, we met in an hospital where I used to work. We exchanged contacts then after a week we had a date at a club, we talked at length n we kissed as he escorted me.

I invited him over to my hse where we got to know each other deeper.. This became a routine. I used to sneak him over since I lived with my siz. He said he could not invite me over to his house because he lived with his brother.

I dated him for one year sneaking him at my place. He was a mean man, I couldn’t understand why. I never counted on him in anything. He works at a reputable company earning 4 or 5times more salary than me… Ksh 500 was what he would part with when i needed his help. I later found out he was married(on facebook)

We had one mutual friend, a lady, when i clicked to see her profile, she had written married (to him) and they even have a son. I didn’t know how to go about this issue. He had started showing signs that he was busy for me. I texted him that I had already known what he was hiding all this time. Then he opened up that the lady was a cheat- he admitted that he stays with her but would soon be leaving her. I didn’t agree to it, so I went on with my life

I met another 2 men and broke up with them. After the two break ups I decided to go back to my former man who was married, this time as a mpango wa kando. Then the wife called me one day and asked … “do you know xxx”, i said yes. She then asked , “do you know he is married and we have a child”, i said yes. She then asked that we meet for a cup of coffee in their house. I was tensing and i said i was out of town.

Since then I looked for a way of leaving this man but I couldn’t.  He had gotten the best of me. One day he invited me over to his place in Donholm. He told me to sit comfortable and nobody would come. His so called wife had parked and gone with their kid. I had to confirm; I checked the whole house and not even a shoe or baby cloth was hanging around. I was certain I wasn’t invading someone’s home.

The next day we both went to work. I never went back there but he always came to my place. My fon din’t have whatsapp, so I used my sister’s phone to send him messages on whatsapp.

One  day, I came home only to find  he had sent a porn video to my younger siz and he was asking her out. I couldn’t believe this when I arrived from work n saw what my own boyfriend has been sending to my younger siz. My siz was very mad at my funny guy. She couldn’t stop telling me that she had warned me and I din’t listen. I had not wronged him in any way, we were in very good terms when this hapened.

We texted him together with my siz and we abused him big time for the devil that he is. I went for a while without seeing him. He never called me too. They say time heals all wounds. After five months I forgave him, we went back together because I still loved him. This time round i couldn’t bring him to my house because he could not face my sister. We used to meet at a lodging nearby. this went on for sometime. One day I used my workmate’s phone to call him because mine had ran out of charge. He again saved the number and looked at her pics in watsapp n facebook then called her behind my back and asked her out on a date. Good thing i had already warned my friend about him. She quickly phoned me and told me my guy wants to meet her. I asked the place and time but I wasn’t able to make it there to burst him.

So, i asked the lady to find out what he wants. What I later heard, my God I wonder if he is ok in his mind or not. I could not understand why he seemed mentally unstable, to think that i could not find out from my own friend what he said about me. And he knows how to choose perfect timing. When everything is ok between us… that he is looking for a wife? his wife ran away with his kid, now he is willing to take my friend to his house while i thot his brother lives there that’s why i agree to go to the lodging with him. When i questioned him about all this he started quarrelling with my friend. We all turned against him. I decided to go single, i am pregnant as we speak, but I have set my mind to accept being a single mum. We are not communicating any more.